Tuesday, July 29, 2008
Alicia
5 years ago on November, 2002 I moved back to Arkansas with my parents. I attended Life Covenant church (now called Gateway) in Fayetteville, Arkansas. This was where I met my friend. We were both single moms with young children. Her son was a year younger than Rylee. There were other single moms at church but none with little children. We were the only two single moms. We became friends. I actually met her before her now 4 year old son was born. I would sit with her in church and we would talk a lot of the girl talk. In some ways we were similiar to each other. We often went for bad boys because of our low self esteem. We didn't think God wanted to give us better than that. it was a rough road. In our struggle to find the right guy. We would share stories about our experinces with our newest guy. to find we had very similiar ones at most. I did never date those who did drugs but I did go for abusers like my ex. In my own warped view I thought That was the hand I was dealt with.

We both had negative words spoken in us that damaged our self worth and image. We both felt like we didn't have friends at church who understood us. So we made a small group of 3 myself, Alicia and a guy named Justin. Who seemed to understand us both. Became good friends.
I remember one guy that just started coming to the church told her she looked like Sandra Bullock. She would just laugh and say I get that a lot. I can't even watch a movie with Sandra Bullock in it. She looks so much like my friend it makes me miss her all the more. It's been 1 year and 1 month since her disapperance. They are no further in knowing whats happened. They let her case go dead cold. They arrested the man who hurt her but he of course won't confess to anything. I am hoping to start a special group for those whose loved ones are missing and offer some support, where they can share stories of their own experince.s make friendships with those who have been there. Maybe write letters a place where they can write one another. Just be around those who have been there. So many people don't understand dealing with this kind of thing. I've been told get over it! Well its not that easy. When you have a friend who goes missing or a loved one? than come and talk to me. See if you can get over it so easily.

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Monday, July 21, 2008
Starting the Alicia Foundation
I am working on starting the Alicia foundation. I am going to start by posting about my friend on this blog. Sharing the story on how we met. As well as how I learned about her dissapperance. There is a mix of emotions people aren't aware of that you go through when facing something like this. A lot of people who have not walked through that door don't know the pain involved. They think you can bounce back really fast on something like that. They tell you get over it! Until you walk through that door you just don't realize its not that simple. Especially if you have no closure on what has happened to your friend. No answers. Being left hanging. They are no closer now than a year ago. Believe me I had numerous insenstive people tell me to get over it.

Its not that easy. I will be posting more about my friend. I posted a blog about this desire of mine on the alpha women website as well. Want to start a place for people like me who are or have been walking through this. Be it a family member or a personal friend of yours. I am hoping other friends of Alicia's would also want to take part in this and get together as well.

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